Tuesday, April 7, 2015

My Worst 10 Minutes












Whenever I reflect on the day I must admit that I cringe when I get to the last 10 minutes before the kids actually get in bed.  For some reason I can get through lots of storms throughout the day, but delay getting in bed at the end of the night...I. LOOSE. MY.MIND!

I must confess that I hate this about myself and while I'm in the middle of those 10 minutes I know I am acting poorly and I just can't break the habit...which is silly.  I can. I should.

And while I am at it I should examine another 10 minute period of the day that I may not be firing at my most virtuous...that is pack up and get in the car time.  Each day we do this it is like the first time the kids have had to put on shoes and socks.  The problems we encounter in the shoe putting on area is mind blowing... Really??  This should not be that hard...

I looked at the systems I have in place during these 2 time periods and I can't see where I am going wrong...I give advanced warning of expectation.  I remind and encourage.  I assist.  And then I scratch my head as to why this feels so hard!!  What is wrong with all of the above?

Just recently we started praying in the car on the way to school.  I always start the prayer asking for forgiveness for me loosing my patience just a few minutes before...and then I pray for grace to be better the next day.  Then each child says a prayer or 2 and then we end with the Memorare.  This has helped those mornings when I am really about to loose it because I remember that I will be sitting in the car in just a few minutes about to pray.  I would like to not have to ask for forgiveness EVERYDAY .  It helps, a little!

But those last 10 minutes??  I'm not sure what to do with those.


  1. Have you ever given praise to the ones who do the task without being reminded and nagged? Most children respond well to this and even siblings respond because they want to be praised as well. Just a thought.

    And give yourself a break. We all lose it sometimes. If I only had 20 minutes of not-great-mom each day, I'd be doing well.

    1. You rock Barbara. Thank you for reminding me of that.. I wish it were just that 20 minutes. Those are just the gaurenteed ones

  2. Hey, Lisa,

    Not sure if this will help but when mine were little and it was time to get ready for church and bedtime (the two major crunch times for us), I would deal with one child at a time. When they were really little I gave 30 minutes per child to get ready (before church, ending with the youngest; before bed, ending with the eldest). Honestly, I just ignored everyone else until I got one ready. How much time does it realistically take to be ready with peace and calm? Even if it's two hours, do it. If it means getting everyone up at 5 a.m. so you can leave the house in peace, do it. If getting ready for bed needs to start after the supper dishes are done, do it. Give yourself the space you need. Peace is worth it!


    1. As always I treasure your wisdom and advice. Helping younger kids first is simple but a helpful reminder.
      Thank you

  3. I found your link from The Conversion Diary. I love your blog. I wanted to say "Thank goodness, there is someone else like me!" I have nearly daily adult tantrums at bedtime and with the morning shoe saga. I feel ashamed afterward. I pray about it daily and ask for guidance and help. It's a work in progress, I'll say.


  4. Erin,
    There is comfort in knowing that others struggle with the same "issues". The funny thing is, as soon as I call a problem a problem I am much better at handling it. Thanks for clicking over.