To be here, in this place, of being mama to a pre-teen has been highly anticipated. I remember back when it all began with my little mouse (Emily) I wanted to look at the teen years as the best part of my mama years. I wanted to go into the teens with a good attitude because I know that matters. How we begin can often determine how we will succeed. And. I . Will . Succeed.
When she was little little I never thought I would home school. I came to that life style by exposure to amazing moms I wanted to be just like. One mom still home schools and the other mom sent her kids to school after leaving Alaska. They both have raised fine, wonderful Catholic kids...well...one mama is still working on her finished product. They are still my beacons through this wonderful adventure of being a mama.
And boy do I need beacons. I had this vision of parenting my sweet 9 year old Emily into her teen years..she would stay just like her 9 year old self ...just get taller and more knowledgeable...always seeking my wisdom . But reality is a smidge different and I am finding I have a few questions....
Like how do you say things to them without looking like your actually saying something to them??
How do you know when it is not a big deal...or when it really is??
Here is my consolation...When I was her age I was awful. I was a hand full in the worst way. Lots of my friends were not that great ( to their parents). We are all now sitting in the place of worrying about our kids being ruined for life and we are all pretty good people. That counts for something...right?
Emily makes her confirmation this year. I have until May. And up until this morning I had no plan. Thanks to one of my beacons I have a plan. Now I must execute...execute and pray. Pray that the seeds I hope to plant land on fertile soil. Soil I have tried so hard to tend with her...with them all.
A family meeting is in order. It is time we laid things out for the updated family we have become. No longer should all my kids be coming to me for every specific question they have. I am setting guidelines. I am laying out "rules"...more like do's and please don'ts.
I am assigning tasks and chores. I am not making charts. I don't think I am a chart person. But I do need a plan. I will confess to having these kids do very little in the way of keeping house. I can do it. I don't mind doing it...until I do mind. And I think I kinda mind. Plus ...I'm sensing the kids need to get their hands dirty. I think it will help.