Friday, March 4, 2011

My Girls...My Girls

Some people say to me, "I feel so bad for you having 4 girls"..."Just wait until they get older!"

I just don't feel that way.  I know God gave me these girls because they are exactly what I needed.  I get girls. I understand the mindfield we live in.  I want to help them navigate "girlhood" better than I did.  Maybe all the mistakes I made were specifically designed to make them better women.

I don't feel bad for me.  I am excited for me.  I get to be mother of the bride at least a few times(unless there are more than a few vocations here).  I get to be friends with these women who will, one day, be amazing people.

I was not blessed with sisters, but I get to share in their sisterhood...which I LOVE!!

 One day I hope to be there when they have daughters and know that a piece of me will go into to them as well...
Don't get me wrong, I love my little guy...I love his boyness.  I love the fact that out of all these girls he can out talk any of us.  I love that when it is cleaning day he is the first guy standing by my side with a sponge and spray.  I love that at night he prays for mama when she goes to the hospital to have our baby because he is afraid I am going to be hurt.

I love that he wants to be just like his daddy!!

But if God wanted to give me another girl I know I would be just as thrilled.  And I do realize they become teenagers.  But I also know they don't stay that way forever.  I will gladly be there to help pick up the pieces and make the world right again.

My life with girls is filled with me making sure I am the best "girl" I can be.  Because I know they are watching and I want to do the best I can for them.

But for my Jackers..he just loves his mama and he does not want to see her get hurt, which melts my heart.


  1. I think God gives us just what we need. I had my 2 boys before my girl and I remember feeling nervous to have a girl because I was used to boys. Now I know what crazy thinking that was. I don't know what I would do without my Emily.

  2. yay for you whatever God has in store! some people are just idiotic when they open their mouths, sad but true. it's amazing the comments one gets!

  3. That's such a sweet message to spread to others. I hear the same thing in reverse. So many much energy. Alas, God knew what our family needed. :) Your girls are beautiful and amazing! What a wonderful legacy of motherhood you are passing on to them.

  4. What a beautiful post! You are such a blessing their lives!

  5. I think 4 girls sounds like sooo much fun! I am so happy God blessed me with two because I cannot imagine life with any less! I used to think 4 girls would be so perfect ~ just like the book Little Women! Now having 2 & 2 I don't know what I would do without my boys. Like you, I also love their boyishness.
    Also, I know the teenage years have their challenges but (even though ours aren't their yet) occasionally I meet people who talk about how much they love those years and those are the people I am going to seek to be like! To enjoy their sillyness, their friends who come over, to let myself feel young again and remember what it was like to be their age! I think attitude about the phases has a great impact on how they go! That is my theory - we'll see in a few more years how it works out!

  6. What special children to have such a special mama!

  7. Oh my goodness, having 4 girls is what keeps me going. It's like having 4 best friends. It IS having 4 best friends!

    You are is all good! And look at your girls-- they are fantastic!

    Boys are good too ;)